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E D G E 

 
A 6 DAY DEVOTIONAL EXPLORATION OF ROPE, SENSATION, AND EMBODIED TRUTH

PORTUGAL • SEPTEMBER 19-24th 2026

 

  

THE EDGE RETREAT 

WHAT LIVES ON THE EDGE IS THE UNCHARTED TERRITORY THAT SPARKS ALIVENESS.  THE EDGE EXISTS AT THE HEART-POUNDING PULSE OF TRUTH, THE RAWNESS OF VULNERABILITY & THE GORGEOUS THRILL OF NOT KNOWING WHAT COMES NEXT. 



THE EDGE IS WHERE MASKS FALL AWAY & SOMETHING REAL EMERGES. IT'S WHERE COURAGE MEETS FEAR & TRANSFORMATION BEGINS.

 

4 WEEKS ONLINE EROS & EDGE TRAINING // 6 DAYS IN-PERSON RETREAT PORTUGAL 

 

RESERVE YOUR SPOT

IN THIS RETREAT 

 

ANCHOR INTO THE BOUNDARIES OF BODY

Feel your boundaries & practice asserting them. You create your own safety. Learn to read the relational field. What is alive between you and the other? Do you feel desire? This is a foundation for playing at the sensational edge.

 

OPEN TO SHIBARI & EXPLORE SENSATION

We will follow sensation toward of the edge comfort zone through play in our bodies, shibari partner dynamics & curiosity. Sensation is body communication. It keeps us present & cues us into what is emerging in real time.

 

STOP "SHOULDING" & START BEING

Step over the fine line of the comfort zone of "should" into the aliveness, exhilaration, and radical freedom of the desire's edge -- even for one day. In real time, connected to the emergent we are able to choose a new way. Here is where we burn the scripts & play.

 

 

 

 

Unravel into Sensation 

EDGE isn't for the faint of heart, it's for those who want tho thrive on the Edge of life, taste the colors, and live a more vicerally powerful existence in purpose. 

You will feel the thrill, the charge, the inspiration, the power, and the turn-on.  

You feel curious to feel the ropes, the power and potentcy they have to take you to deep states of surrender and embodied leadership. 

 


EDGE IS FOR YOU IF:

  

You have been doing the work but crave a more somatic led experience:

You have read the books. Attended the workshops. You have the language for everything you feel. And still, quietly, persistently, something remains untouched. That something does not live in your mind. It lives in your body. And it has been waiting.

 

You are curious about kink, BDSM, and Shibari:

You have felt the pull & intrigue towards kink, BSDM, & the ropes. You are wondering about what lives in those spaces and whether it is for you. You have never had a container that felt safe enough to explore these modalities.  You desire intelligent, attunded, & conscious kink space to learn & discover.  EDGE is that container. No prior experience required. No judgment. No pressure. Just an honest, embodied, shame-free place to get curious about the edges of your own desire.  Let us show you the way.  

 

You are the couple who loves each other but has lost the spark:

You chose each other. You still choose each other. And somewhere along the way the electricity went quiet or predictable. You feel safe in the vanilla world and wonder if there is anything more enlivening.

 

You have grown tired of performative interations & intimacy:

You are very good at being acceptable. At being likeable. At showing up in the version of yourself that gets approved of. You have been doing it so long you have almost forgotten there is another version underneath. Wilder. Truer. More alive. 

 

You have been afraid to own your wanting:

There is something you want that you have never fully let yourself have. You have circled it. Gotten close. Pulled back. Told yourself it was too much, too strange, too much to ask for. What if it was not too much? What if it was exactly right? What if it was the most human thing about you?

 

Your body has been forgotten:

You live mostly from the neck up. Making decisions. Managing things. Producing. Your body carries you through the day and you rarely stop to feel it. To listen to it. To let it lead.  

 

You were never given permission to feel:

You learned early that strength meant containment. That feeling too much was a liability. That vulnerability was something to manage and minimize. What you were never told is that real power lives on the other side of all that bracing.

 

You crave erotic literacy:

You learned about sex from schoolmates, trial and error, movies, and porn. Just like everyone else. And somewhere in you is the quiet suspicion that there is an entirely different world of erotic power, depth, and experience that nobody ever showed you. And it's true...there is. 

 

You are tired of holding it all together:

You have been the one who holds. Who manages. Who shows up. Who takes care. You have been doing it so long that softening feels dangerous. Being held feels almost impossible. You ache to finally put it down. Where someone else holds the ropes. And you get to just be.

 

You want to feel desire:

You learned to be desirable. Nobody taught you how to desire. You learned to give pleasure. Nobody showed you how to receive it. You have been waiting your whole life for someone to hand you permission to be wanted, wild, and entirely yourself at the same time. 

Your erotic expression is bigger than sex. You have just never had a container, a relationship, or an experience that knew the difference.

 

TAKE ME TO EDGE

What people say about Edge:

 "Edge, didn't just exceed my expectations, it dissolved them completely, opening me to experiences I never even knew to dream of.

Alyssa and Kati held such exquisitely sacred space for our diverse group of souls. In their presence, I felt so deeply cared for, seen, and so tenderly held throughout every moment of the journey. 

Honestly, my heart could have stayed in that container for weeks, continuing to unravel and discover. Yet I left feeling so beautifully full, so completely satiated with all the sensations and revelations I got to experience."

— AnaCristina 

 "This experience was life-altering, both from a personal place as well as interpersonally; I was deeply changed - transmuted - and the ideas for creating cathartic scenes and transformative predicaments started flowing like never before.

I left with a profound respect and reverence for the importance of ritual and the power of pain, and the human capacity to move energy through the body for healing.

Really just amazing and thank you both again for hosting, holding, showing, and teaching. I hope to share spaces with you again soon!"

— Austin 

What people say about Edge:

 

"Edge, didn't just exceed my expectations, it dissolved them completely, opening me to experiences I never even knew to dream of.

Alyssa and Kati held such exquisitely sacred space for our diverse group of souls. In their presence, I felt so deeply cared for, seen, and so tenderly held throughout every moment of the journey.

 

Honestly, my heart could have stayed in that container for weeks, continuing to unravel and discover. Yet I left feeling so beautifully full, so completely satiated with all the sensations and revelations I got to experience."

— AnaCristina

 

 

 

 

"This experience was life-altering, both from a personal place as well as interpersonally; I was deeply changed - transmuted - and the ideas for creating cathartic scenes and transformative predicaments started flowing like never before.

I left with a profound respect and reverence for the importance of ritual and the power of pain, and the human capacity to move energy through the body for healing.

Really just amazing and thank you both again for hosting, holding, showing, and teaching. I hope to share spaces with you again soon!"

— Austin

 

SHIBARI 

Shibari, is the Japanese Art of tying the body in ropes.  More than just the technical tying of the ropes on the body, this retreat guides you to a way of movement, mood, emotion, and energetics at which one applies the rope to the body. 

In this art, ropes cease to be mere bindings; they become conduits of introspection & connection, channels through which we explore not just the physical form but the emotional landscape within. Shibari is a language of sensation while holding a large amount of symbolism around freedom, intimacy, & safety. 

A profound & revealing unravelling of our understanding of control & surrender, pain & pleasure, fear & desire.

For many, being ensnared within the ropes offers a deep release, a moment of embodied presence, a respite from responsibilities, a sacred space to listen to one's own inner rhythms, to feel deeply, to surrender wholly, and to experience the tactile arousal of the skin. It transforms into a meditation, a dance in a parallel universe, a realm distinct from the ordinary, offering interactions and intimacy that transcend the mundane.


EDGE & SHIBARI

For beginners & more advanced, Shibari will be a language for deep connection rather than a deep technically driven expereince 

  • Basic Foundational Shibari Skills: Knots, Frictions, Tension, Lock-Offs, Closures and put all this together to build upper and lower body ties.
  • Ties for the Upper and Lower Body
  • Exploration of Control & Surrender. Embodiment of Roles: Top & Bottom.
  • A solid foundation of Rope Communication: Boundaries, Consent, Safety, I.I.S.S.P.P. (a powerful acronym to help you articulate your desires, do's, & don'ts in a very detailed way), Star Check-in System, Communication Failures, Aftercare, and more! These skills will set the stage for the magic to take place by creating a safe space to explore. They are also profound for day to day life and building communication in intimate relationships.
  • Polarity Exploration: Emboldened Leadership and Embodied Surrender
  • Itchinawa: One Rope Scenes
  • Creative Rope Play: Games, Skills, and Techniques to enhance play & intimacy
  • Pain and Pleasure Rituals 
  • Sensuality, Mood, Touch and Emotions in the ropes
  • Learn How to Build a Session
  • Elemental Connection: A Guided Sensory Journey
  • How to hold space for Aftercare

DEEEPING IN WITH SENSATION

Sensation to elatation, Pain into poetry, Pleasure as possibility

The body is the portal to altered states of consciousness,

to Erotic currents, to living a life of full of Aliveness. 

Sensation is coming back home to you.  To translating the world through your authentic truth of the body as the guiding force.  

When we move experiences through the body, this is where there are the largest transformations in life. 

You don't need to think it, you feel it.

You become it.  

SHIBIARI & SENSATION 

Shibari & sensation play will be used as ways to connect deeper with self & partner, but also as way to deepen into the body. Working intentionally with sensation facilitate transformation emotional + perceptual through staying with what is alive and moving in the body.

  • Sensation as a way to catalyze emotional alchemy & process.  
  • Learn to stay with, experience, and be informed by sensation in the        body rather than narrative it into intellectual story.
  • Practice being with discomfort rather than dissociating or avoiding. 
  • Understanding that sensation is amoral. It's not "good" or "bad"
  • Cultivation of curiosity with our relationship with pain (discomfort),       safety & breathe
  • Coming into contact with sensations many textures beyond       "pleasure" and / or "pain". 
  •  Learning to intentionally use the body + sensation as an entry point into altered states. 
 
TAKE ME THERE

⃟
MEET YOUR GUIDES

MISS LYSS ⤀

Alyssa is a Deconditioning Guide, creator of Erotic Integration & Sweaty Embodiment Witch - aka Chaos Gremlin

 

Miss Lyss is a deconditioning guide and creator of Erotic Integration, devoted to helping people reconnect with the intelligence of their bodies. Rooted in one radical premise - "Eros is life force" - her work bridges the mundane and the mystical, guiding a messy, alive, and deeply human unfolding of truth.

⬴ KATI BIRD

Kati is a renowned Shibari Artist & Sorceress, specializing in Somatic Trauma Therapy, Sacred Kink, & Creative Intimacy.

Kati creates transformative spaces where conscious connection and play become pathways to healing, depth, and meaning through ritual and presence. As an international educator, Kati has worked with world-renowned intimacy leaders such as psychotherapist Esther Perel, emphasizing attuned touch, creative intimate play spaces, and dark erotic arts as gateways to embodied freedom.

MISS LYSS ⤀

Alyssa is a Deconditioning Guide, creator of Erotic Integration & Sweaty Embodiment Witch - aka Chaos Gremlin

Miss Lyss is a deconditioning guide and creator of Erotic Integration, devoted to helping people reconnect with the intelligence of their bodies. Rooted in one radical premise - "Eros is life force" - her work bridges the mundane and the mystical, guiding a messy, alive, and deeply human unfolding of truth.

⬴ KATI BIRD

Kati is a renowned Shibari Artist & Sorceress, specializing in Somatic Trauma Therapy, Sacred Kink, & Creative Intimacy.

Kati creates transformative spaces where conscious connection and play become pathways to healing, depth, and meaning through ritual and presence. As an international educator, Kati has worked with world-renowned intimacy leaders such as psychotherapist Esther Perel, emphasizing attuned touch, creative intimate play spaces, and dark erotic arts as gateways to embodied freedom.

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What people say about Edge:

"A week later, I am still feeling the ripples of EDGE. While it was nothing I expected, it was everything I needed.

I got closer to my partner I attended with, but also gained tools and understanding for how I can be closer to everyone in my life. 

To come face to face with my suffering, to name it and claim it and walk away knowing where I can continue to work, was such a gift.

The container that Alyssa and Kati held was nothing short of magic. I felt seen, loved, supported and pushed into fun new edges of exploration and connections within the group.
I had the most beautiful experience switching roles in my dynamic and feeling empowered, softened, loved, loving. Wow. Thank you both so much, truly."

— Lindsey <3

“Through the work of this brief weekend the connections between Eros, sensation, pain, pleasure and Life-Itself clicked more in me than it had before in my shibari practice.

This workshop was way more than the sum of its prosaic parts (as I recall: felt sense of the body … rope … candles … honoring your impulses … bamboo BBQ skewers).

The demo/ritual between you two was transporting. It invited the archetypes into the room. The intimate duet raised the bar for all participants by example.

The thoughtful intro teachings set the tone in a way that seemed to level up what we could all share in a short space of time.

My one piece of what-to-change type feedback is “more, please”. 

— J.R.

What people say about Edge:

"A week later, I am still feeling the ripples of EDGE. While it was nothing I expected, it was everything I needed.

I got closer to my partner I attended with, but also gained tools and understanding for how I can be closer to everyone in my life. 

To come face to face with my suffering, to name it and claim it and walk away knowing where I can continue to work, was such a gift.

The container that Alyssa and Kati held was nothing short of magic. I felt seen, loved, supported and pushed into fun new edges of exploration and connections within the group.
I had the most beautiful experience switching roles in my dynamic and feeling empowered, softened, loved, loving. Wow. Thank you both so much, truly."

— Lindsey <3

 

 

 

“Through the work of this brief weekend the connections between Eros, sensation, pain, pleasure and Life-Itself clicked more in me than it had before in my shibari practice.

This workshop was way more than the sum of its prosaic parts (as I recall: felt sense of the body … rope … candles … honoring your impulses … bamboo BBQ skewers).

The demo/ritual between you two was transporting. It invited the archetypes into the room. The intimate duet raised the bar for all participants by example.

The thoughtful intro teachings set the tone in a way that seemed to level up what we could all share in a short space of time.

My one piece of what-to-change type feedback is “more, please”. 

— J.R.


RETREAT DETAILS

SEPT 19-24TH: A 6-Day Shibari & Sensation Retreat in Lagos, Portugal featuring conscious rope practices, embodied exploration, communal rituals, beach excursions, and daily facilitated experiences in an intimate container.

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ACCOMMODATIONS 》

Private Couples Room w. Tub & Patio ↠


This is a dreamy option for a couple or duo who want more privacy and comfort. The room features a private outdoor patio and a private bathroom with a shower AND tub. A great place to unwind at the end of the day and have a little space to yourselves.

Private Couples Room w. Shared Bathroom ↠

 

A sweet and cozy room for a couple or duo. This room shares a walk-in shower and bathroom with one other room. Simple, comfortable, and still very sweet if you don’t mind sharing a bathroom.

Shared Room w. Private Bath ↠

 

This shared bedroom features two beds and a private bathroom. One bed is a double and the other is a single. First person to book gets preference on bed selection. A nice option if you want shared space but your own bathroom.

Shared Bedroom w. Shared Bath ↠

 

This room features three single beds in a shared space with a shared bathroom. This is one of the more communal options and a great way to connect with other retreat participants.

Private Alternative Stay: Bird House ↠

 

This Bird House option is for a couple or solo human who wants more privacy. It features a double bed, desk, and skylights, with access to a shared outdoor bathhouse. A lovely choice if you want your own little nest while still being on the property.

 

 

Private Alternative Stay: Safari Tent ↠

 

A sweet glamping option for a couple or solo human who wants a bit more privacy & unique stay. This canvas safari A-frame tent is located in the garden and includes access to a shared outdoor bathhouse.

Please note: this is an alternative stay and is more exposed to the elements since it is a canvas tent.

Booking & Details

Private Couples Room w. Tub & Patio ↠


This is a dreamy option for a couple or duo who want more privacy and comfort. The room features a private outdoor patio and a private bathroom with a shower AND tub. A great place to unwind at the end of the day and have a little space to yourselves.

Private Couples Room w. Shared Bathroom ↠

 

A sweet and cozy room for a couple or duo. This room shares a walk-in shower and bathroom with one other room. Simple, comfortable, and still very sweet if you don’t mind sharing a bathroom.

Shared Room w. Private Bath ↠

 

This shared bedroom features two beds and a private bathroom. One bed is a double and the other is a single. First person to book gets preference on bed selection. A nice option if you want shared space but your own bathroom.

Shared Bedroom w. Shared Bath ↠

 

This room features three single beds in a shared space with a shared bathroom. This is one of the more communal options and a great way to connect with other retreat participants.

Private Alternative Stay: 2p Bird House ↠

 

This Bird House option is for a couple or duo who want more privacy. It features a double bed, desk, and skylights, with access to a shared outdoor bathhouse. A lovely choice if you want your own little nest while still being on the property.

Private Alternative Stay: 2p Safari Tent ↠

 

A sweet glamping option for a couple or duo sharing a bed. This canvas safari A-frame tent is located in the garden and includes access to a shared outdoor bathhouse.

Please note: this is an alternative stay and is more exposed to the elements since it is a canvas tent.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

LISTEN🎙️
GET A FEEL OF US  

TUNE INTO OUR EDGY PODCAST EPIDSODES TOGETHER

'MAGICK IN THE MUNDANE PODCAST' BY ALYSSA TROOB featuring KATI BIRD

TUNE IN 🎙️ GET A TASTE